I don’t think Kris Aquino has any real friends. If she had, they would have told her long ago that the only way people would leave her alone is if she quit being in the limelight. I know, I know, but what else is she going to do? More importantly, who else will the rest of Philippine society talk about? Even her famous buddy, Boy Abunda, keeps giving Kris all the opportunity to make a fool of herself on national TV.
It was excruciatingly painful to watch video footage of her with the camera zooming in and out of her face while she sobbed and fought back crocodile tears for 15 minutes or so. I don’t know why I even watched it on YouTube. It was one of those things that you just know is going to be so awful to watch but once you start it, it’s hard to look away because you keep waiting for the point of the whole thing to be made.
They say people unconsciously enjoy watching others make a mistake because it makes them feel better about themselves. Well, I sure did feel a lot better about myself after watching Kris. It’s the same reason why tabloid magazines are making a lot of money selling stories about human dramas. Apparently human beings, particularly the female of the species, are actually happiest when they are gossiping about other people. A study published in the journal Hormones and Behaviour says that regular chatting boosted the levels of progesterone, a hormone shown to reduce levels of anxiety and stress. A least we don’t have to feel guilty over talking about Kris because for one, it’s good for us and two, she actually likes being talked about. I just wish, though, that the whole of Philippine society could reduce the number of hours it engages in this national pastime. Kris Aquino’s presence on TV makes it hard for both the TV networks and the audience to move on to something more productive.
Going back to Kris’ video on Youtube, I just had to see what people were talking about. It was about something that happened between her and another actress Ruffa Guttierrez a few months ago. In short, it was something trivial. Both of them just need to work on their ego. The unfortunate thing about Kris Aquino is that, every rumor about her seems likely to be true.
Even video footage of her in a good mood can make you cringe because she seems to adopt this cutesy voice to make her sound and look angelic. Why do they keep interviewing her in the first place? Everyone knows that her opinion is useless. I really don’t think there is any need for her to keep explaining herself.
Kris’s appearance on TV is an obvious call for more attention on her part but then she complains when people talk about or criticize her. She has to understand that if she wants people to stop dissing her, she needs to stop acting like she is the centre of the universe. Kris Aquino doesn’t owe anyone an explanation. In the past, she felt the need to explain how she got her venereal disease or why she had to stalk the alleged lover of her recent husband. Going on national TV to give details of what she’s up to is assuming that people really give a hoot – the poor thing. The people around Kris have been giving her the cuddly softly-softly treatment since she was a kid and it has done her more harm than good.
Even her brother, Noynoy cannot do much to prevent his youngest sister from imploding right before his eyes. He is now reduced to defending her and announcing to reporters that Kris is a citizen of the Philippines and has every right to stay in the country. Well, Mr. President, she’s the one who promised to go once you got elected, if you missed what she said, it was all captured on camera here:
It seems though that we shouldn’t hold our breath waiting for Kris to keep her word because, as filmmaker and media critic Jose Javier Reyes thinks out loud: “Was [Kris’s promise] said seriously, hastily or only for effect? Perhaps it should be viewed in the same light as her brother Noynoy’s statement that he would quit smoking should he win the presidency.” As such, I wonder if this is a sign that any statement made by any of the Aquinos shouldn’t be taken seriously.
What went wrong with Kris Aquino’s upbringing? Her mother is supposed to be the model of humility, modesty and meekness. All those words actually mean the same thing in the Philippine context, but I just wanted to stress that none of it can be associated with Kris. Sometimes though, a repressive regime applied by the parent/s tends to create rebel offspring like Kris. Indeed, one can attribute her behavior to either lack of attention or too much attention growing up. Let’s see: she was the youngest in the family, so it is likely that the rest of the family would have doted upon her, which could go on to explain her addiction to attention. Quite often, when you are used to too much attention, you might find not being the centre of attention unacceptable. On the other, the age gap between her and her other siblings might have meant that she could not relate with someone her age. This could have made Kris try hard to get everyone’s attention. Couple that with parents who were in the public eye and voila: you get a fame junkie.
Kris Aquino’s motives for wanting attention are the same as you and I. It’s to seek validation. The difference is, Kris just constantly needs validation in high doses. In existential terms, validation is the act of finding out if people like you or like what you do. The question is: what is Kris really good at? We all know she can’t act. We all know she can’t sing. Apart from her annoying voice and her love affair with the camera, why would anyone hire her as a talk show host or commentator? Obviously, they gave her a break only because of her Aquino name. It’s the same reason why her brother is now the President elect. In short, she doesn’t really have any talent apart from being a chatterbox. Some people might consider her pretty but even if she is, when you only have your appearance going for you, it’s not going to be enough to sustain people’s attention because physical beauty is fleeting. Besides, people’s perception of beauty changes as soon as the person opens her mouth.
This leads us to a disturbing thought: Kris Aquino’s fame says something about Filipinos’ tastes. But I digress.
People who constantly need validation from others are insecure about their own capabilities. Obviously, when you are confident about what you can do, you don’t need others to tell you how good you are. Unfortunately for Kris, she gets her highs from the countless nameless people who praise her and those who only care about her for about an hour or two while watching her show. After that, they have to go back to their own lives and she has to go to back to her own life far away from all the glitter and glamour. This is most definitely when she feels alone. She might find that the worst place to get validation from is from her fans because they don’t really know her that well. Their feelings for her are not real.
How do we solve a problem like Kris Aquino? We can’t. She’s too stubborn to accept that her just being herself could bring about her own downfall. Unfortunately, she might even contribute to her brother’s downfall.