Are Filipinos Pleasantry Addicts?

Some commenters come in here saying that our site is so unpleasant and that we should focus on something more pleasant. Thing is, there’s little that’s pleasant in a country that’s going down by allowing itself to be suckered. Truth hurts. Face it.

But it reveals another sorry aspect of our culture: that Filipinos tend to be pleasantry addicts.

Being Filipino is just an unfortunate circumstance that it is so unpleasant. And thinking about the unpleasant things is so painful makes the emo tribe of the Philippines want to seek some distraction. Wowowee, along with most of local TV (and perhaps even Glee and Beverly Hills 90210, hehe), is one of the most harmful programs to our culture, but it is being embraced by our populace. It remains a distraction, forever keeping the masses drunk with emo pleasantry, while making sure they don’t think of doing anything worthwhile, such as participate in anti-protectionism charter change initiatives.

Anthony Bourdain in his episode of “No Reservations” in the Philippines saw really glaring faults in Filipino culture. He noticed how the inviter Augusto was so excited and wild in his submitted request video, but was so tame in person. So Bourdain was like, what happened? Then after learning more, he said about Filipinos… you’re too nice!

I wrote before that Filipinos don’t know how to be truly positive (or constructive, as Benign0 had pointed out). My points in this article are vindicated when you see how the Filipinos in Bourdain’s show are focusing so much on the trappings of the culture, but are hiding the substance, hiding the truth – because there’s very little substance to be proud of. Otherwise, the food featured on the episode was nice. Yet that food was probably one of the things depended on to forget the problem (probably the reason for high cholesterol, risky food?).

Pleasantry addiction is also form over substance. No wonder Filipinos want the latest products, fashions and stuff. They want to look good… even if they are not good.

You may say that we in are so negative, that we dwell on negativity, and focus on them too much. Not at all; we give the right focus to things that are so obvious. And we want to be constructive. We don’t want the problems hidden under the hot air of “positiveness.” We want real working solutions to be enacted. Face the negativity, and think of the solutions.

I now know that focusing on the obvious problems is disturbing some people. They are so sad about what’s happening to our country, that they want people like to “stop all this negativity” and be more pleasant. Thing is, pleasantry addiction is also laziness. It’s what wiser minds would say, “puro good time lang nasa isip.” Then it turns out that Filipinos are good in faking the good time, wallowing in pleasantries while their country falls apart around them.

Because of pleasantry addiction, Filipinos love to avoid confrontation. They believe too much in that Desiderata line, that one should “be on good terms with all persons.” But if you value justice and righteousness, you will certainly not be on good terms with some people, since you will oppose their injustice. Remember, even very good people like Gandhi, Martin Luther King and even Mother Teresa had enemies.

Also, this avoidance of confrontation can lead to many Filipinos not saying what they need to say to correct another person. Instead, they talk behind their backs. It’s one reason why Filipino family values can actually encourage our culture of inaction and fatalism. It can lead to families pretending that everything is OK, while they’re actually breaking up inside.

Filipinos are so addicted to pleasant stuff that they refuse to face the truth. They instead want to focus on pleasant things and insist that even if there are serious gaffes and mistakes, everything is still OK. Alas, it means that people are willing to drop the truth and embrace lies just to feel good. And thus, we become a nation of lies.

Of course, seeking something pleasant is not by itself wrong. But it is when you use it to hide the truth. the pleasantry addiction in Philippine culture is a cause of inaction. They want short-term pleasantry, while not focusing on the long-term way to get truly pleasant results because of ignorance or laziness.

Even if the truth is ugly or unpleasant, you must face it.


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90 Responses to Are Filipinos Pleasantry Addicts?

  1. Joe America says:

    I’m glad you said it, not me. But it is not just pleasure that is being sought, but life itself, apart from the mundane subsistence that is faced by most Filipinos. The addiction so soap-opera dramas, all the tears and tragedies, is just as pronounced as Wowowee.

    • ChinoF says:

      Just did a little edit… Glee is included. 😛

      • brianitus says:

        Chino, lagot ka sa Gleeks. 😆

      • bokyo says:

        lagot ka sa akin ChinoF , ba’t mo sinama Glee :D. hehe 😆

        Anyway that really hits on the spot about the “pleasantries” of Pinoy. People tend to party too much, drink too much, wallow on soap operas , dramas, etc. I can only count on 1 hand on how many people I can talk to about the real situation of this country.

      • ChinoF says:

        Bwahaha… pardon to the Glee fans, couldn’t think of anything else that symbolizes corniness in pop appeal for me. Thus I decided to include Beverly Hills 90210. And maybe Melrose Place. I dislike these U.S. emo-dramas. Soaps ain’t my cup of tea. But I believe Glee parodizes the soap style, right? 😈

  2. abner says:

    is the third to the last paragraph missing a period or did it get abruptly cut off?

    anyway, agreed, especially the 4th to the last paragraph. even though i am guilty of it myself sometimes, but i have always espoused justice even in the face of a majority seeking “pleasantries”.

    • ChinoF says:

      Thanks for pointing it out, I thought I completed that paragraph in a while ago. Have this nasty tendency to leave unfinished sentences sometimes. Finally got it covered. 😀

  3. crab says:

    Bakit hindi mo ginamit ang mga katagang “some filipino” o kaya “most filipino”? ang ibig mo bang sabihin ng “Filipinos” eh kasali ka dun? na ikaw chinoF ay tanga at emo rin? at ang nanay at tatay mo emo ba at tangarin katulad mo? ang mga lolo at lola mo at tanga at emo rin ba? 😆 hulaan ko ang mga kapatid at kamag-anakan mo at emo at tanga rin katulad mo 😆 na masgustong magsulat ng magsulat ng walang ka-kwenta-kwentang mga banat na ang patama rin naman para sa sariling mukha 😥

    my gash chinof napagkikinita ang ang tanga-tanga mo talaga ❗ punong-puno ng kabobohan ang laman ng bonbonan mo 😳 nakakahiya ka ❗ sana hindi dumami ang lahi mo dahil kung magkakaganun puros emo at tanga nalang talaga ang matitira sa filipinas :mrgreen:

    • Jay says:

      Bakit hindi mo ginamit ang mga katagang “some filipino” o kaya “most filipino”? ang ibig mo bang sabihin ng “Filipinos” eh kasali ka dun? na ikaw chinoF ay tanga at emo rin?

      LOL XD I’ve seen this argument before. Its the old if you knock on pinoys and you are pinoy then you consider yourself part of the equation retort. Looks like crab is showing his true mentality for once. Just because you are part of those whom ChinoF disparages doesn’t mean you can pull him down to your level, or his family members and myself by blood alone. The reason being is we, the ones previously mentioned specifically, know much better and do not accept the Pinoy mindset as something that defines all pinoys. It only defines irreverent thinking pinoys such as yourself, but I’m praying one day that you will come to realize things differently.

      Oh and I can smell the desperation in your last sentences, trying to grasp whatever insult you can throw at him. To quote an old childhood proverb of mine I know what you are, but what am I?.

    • ChinoF says:

      It’s “pleasant” to see you act like your namesake, crab. 😆

  4. mel says:

    “The happy people are failures because they are on such good terms with themselves that they do not give a damn.” (From Agatha Christie, Sparkling Cyanide)

  5. olivia says:

    ChinoF you quite spot on on this one.

    Let me go a little further by saying the our race maybe genetically flawed. We have shown this time and again. In spite of all the advancements in learning, we seemed to have degenerated in so many ways. Case in point are the people we elect and reelect. Where are the Rectos, the Tanadas and the Salongas? Instead we have the Lapids and the Revillas.

    We have shown our over-pleasantness (which has become a huge weakness) early on. During first wave of Spanish arrivals, we allowed them to conquer us easily. There were just five ships against possibly 2 million natives at that time. We could have easily beaten them all to do death but we decided not to. They ended up staying for 333 years.

    In the corporate world many senior managers and executives I have spoken to find Filipinos to be timid that is why there are very few Pinoy top managers abroad compared to other SE Asians say the Malaysians. When I worked in a leading telecom equipment vendor, you cannot find a Pinoy key account manager or country manager. But there are Malaysians, Pakistanis and even Bangladeshis.

    I met a Filipino captain (marine merchant) in one of my transits and I felt proud hearing him tell stories that FIlipino marine officers are most sought after but there are just few of them.

    If you recall, Nonito Donaire also mentioned in one of his interview that before Manny Pacquiao, Pinoy boxers were thought to be soft that they cannot even break an egg or tomato.

    We seemed to lack that killer behaviour that will catapult us to the top of the heap. We are good, skills-wise but probably way too pleasant that it actually hurts us. This trait truly hinders our chances to compete.

    In this world, we have to prove ourselves many many times. Like in my case, I always have this feeling of inadequacy which drives me to try to prove myself over and over again to gain the respect of my peers and superiors.

    I am afraid we cannot change this weakness anymore as a people. We are not a people that can be easily governed. This is not actually a unique problem. What we need is a strong leader with a clear vision. Someone who is so strong and believable who can unite us all, either by inspiration or by force.

    Is PNOY the kind of leader that will unite us? I dont think so. And I think many will agree with me. We need someone who is strong as Lee Kwan Yew and savvy as Mahathir Mohammad. We should probably sacrifice a few rights in favor of having food on our table, shelter over our heads and education for our children.

    • bokyo says:

      I remember an article here saying that the Filipinos are not wired to be timid and humble; we are wired to be proud. The 3 main occupancies in our country conditioned us to either be too timid to become linient (“bahala na”) or too proud.

      • ChinoF says:

        Maybe we’re wired to be proud of being timid and humble. 😛

        Admittedly, my post is again about a symptom rather than a cause of Filipino problems. But it’s a symptom still worth writing about, because you see it happening a lot here in AP. 😆

  6. maikimai says:

    I’ve been posting some of the articles here and doing some thought-provoking statuses on Facebook. When I posted the “Are we becoming a Nation of Cheaters” and gave it a title question “Sino ba ang mas may sala? Ang nandadaya o ang nangungunsinti?”. Sadly, no one replied from my friends list.

    All I can see on the “Most Recent” are love quotes(I am so sick of these, not because I don’t have a girlfriend but most of them are full of BS), Bible quotes, horoscopes etc.

    I did an experiment though, I posted Einstein’s “Insanity” quote, with a tagline, Can this be applied on love too? Someone replied. 😀

    • Jayce says:

      Perhaps it’s because most people in your friends list don’t want to give a thought about what’s happening in our country and our countrymen.

      In this country, thinking about thought-provoking things about the betterment of the Philippines is too much of a hassle for a common citizen. Kumbaga, marami na silang iba pang iniintindi kaysa sa makialam sa mga bagay na para sa kanila ay hindi naman nila pakikinabangan.

      Can’t help but think that we lack people here in this country who think constructively…and they decrease rapidly…

      • maikimai says:

        Yep, all of them prioritize love and social life. Even those who are more intelligent than me doesn’t want to participate. Then sometimes you would hear them complaining about things and blame it to the government.

      • mel says:

        Sadly, this is true. I have been convincing friends and neighbors to visit AP but as they heard about culture, politics and economics discussions, they said” Ay, mahirap makialam diyan, wala din naman mababago”, but then, they commented, “mahirap ang buhay, magulo ang gobyerno, etc.”

        Hay buhay…. karamihan sa mga Pinoy, hanggang Karaoke lang…

  7. NotMasochisticFilipino says:

    Happiness differs in forms, duration and to every people.

    Maybe having PNoy elected as president is already happiness for some people, that any articles, ideas, or even necessities that harms such ‘happiness’ should be ignored. I won’t be surprised if they are as happy as a drug addict being high on drugs.

    Like you said, they are now enjoying PNoy’s 6 years in office.

  8. Hyden Toro says:

    OH…OH…I need to invent a pleasantry drug…maybe, it will cure our blues…SONA…Noynoy Aquino painting a near bankrupt nation…he was one of the National Treasury Pirate Raiders….now, he is Blaming his fellow National Treasury Raiders…they took too much…while he stole only time…by doing nothing!

  9. palebluedot says:

    no matter what…i still blame religion for the propagation of this pleasantry addiction. our predominant religion here always emphasize the comparison of ourselves to the lowly ones and then offering our existence to that invisible being above us. this is supported by the verses from Matthew chapter 6:

    “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?
    “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

    the tendency of filipinos then, with whom having a priest as their life counselors is craved for, is to stop struggling, and to stop worrying about what will happen to their lives. they are satisfied with what they have, thinking God will provide them what they need tomorrow. yun priest naman, because they cannot provide real jobs to their minions…will lazily declare: ba(t)hala na!

    try talking to any ordinary filipino about the intricacies of living in this world (or country), they will answer you back with: “you have no faith in God! you’re like a pagan.” it’s irritating!!!! 👿

    • ChinoF says:

      I’m still religious, but I agree, bad religion is a factor in why our society’s lazy. These teachers of false, dole-out mentality religion should be fronted with the classic lines “nasa Diyos ang awa, pero nasa tao ang gawa,” and “God helps those who help themselves.”

      • Aegis-Judex says:

        And when Church tightens her stranglehold on State… Because it WORKED in Iran… As much as I detest generalizing, would the CBCP advocate Chacha in order for the Church to become the State (the mere mention of that idea sickens me!) and basically become an Iran expy?

  10. Welcome_To_Earth says:

    That’s the thing, Filipinos retreat into dreamland to escape the glaring third-world poverty they are surrounded by every day. The Filipino’s solutions to life’s problems? Sweep it under the rug! They quickly forsake life for their fiesta utopia illusion. They don’t realize that what they consider “negative” is a part of life and these experiences and contrary thoughts can be utilized as a positive influence in life. How can you expect to grow as an individual when you are constantly coddled like a baby?

    “If you are pained by external things, it is not they that disturb you, but your own judgment of them. And it is in your power to wipe out that judgment now.”
    – Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

    False positivisim is unhealthy, after all, how can you enjoy the spring if you’ve never been through harsh winters.

    • Welcome_To_Earth says:

      Nature prefers truth over pleasure.

    • Jay says:

      Much like how one does not appreciate the struggle until you have accomplished the goals. Pinoys shy away from struggles and even mis-interpret the concept of sacrifice. While struggles and sacrifices are integral to any means of an end.

  11. Joe America says:

    Getting past the symptoms to the causes, and the solutions . . .

    I thought more today of this matter of pleasure-seeking, of finding fulfillment in a television show or a magazine showing the 100 sexiest women in the world, purchased by my wife but ogled by me. Of styles defined by advertising barons and the stars paid to tout everything from wrinkle cream to LBM remedies. I drink what Manny drinks and my wife shampoos with some goop that allows her hair to shine and swing with a twist like so much plastic on a oversized bobble-head doll.

    TV shows and dancing. Soaps and stars.

    Escape it is called.

    Americans do it.
    Filipinos do it.

    They find escapes from the mundane work of living in the best way that their wallet allows. Americans do more traveling and eating out. Filipinos watch the two channels beamed across the islands or sit at the tuba table and swill their drudgery away. I don’t find much to condemn about this.

    Oh, education and early parenting underlies the choice of entertainments, too, I suppose. I see few books in the Philippine households I visit; I guess they rust in the damp, although my wobbly stack against the west wall seems just fine for now. Families tie huge boulders of obligation about the necks of their kids, sometimes as young as 13 or 14, to go out and earn the daily rice. The boulders hang around for a lifetime.

    Americans kick their kids out; they don’t tie them down. “I’ve given you the education to compete, Junior. Get out there and build yourself a life . . .”

    The absence of career opportunity in the Philippines erases what is fundamentally important in America: the ability to rise on skill, hard work and term-of-service. Ambition. Aspiration. They are common in the US. Uplifting. Sometimes an escape unto themselves. Not here. In the Philippines, job opportunities are favors to be traded for personal gain. Those without power, without favors, merely subsist, going nowhere. To those forced to play in that arena, Wowowee looks like great fun.

    If looking for tangible ways to right the subsisting ship, I’d suggest start by building real markets by letting foreign firms crack the protective walls of the oligopolies, mandate fair employment laws that prize achievement over cousins and classmates, and teach kids the fundamentals of competing for success, not obedience to confinements imposed by others. Encourage the rise of the middle class. The rest is water flowing down hill.

    • ulong pare says:

      … daaang

      … joe ‘merkan naman naman namannn…

      … you posted all that to come up with this?

      ” I’d suggest start by building real markets by letting foreign firms crack the protective walls of the oligopolies, mandate fair employment laws that prize achievement over cousins and classmates, and teach kids the fundamentals of competing for success, not obedience to confinements imposed by others…

      … that’s APs beef about flipfland administrations, past and present…

    • Jay says:

      They find escapes from the mundane work of living in the best way that their wallet allows. Americans do more traveling and eating out. Filipinos watch the two channels beamed across the islands or sit at the tuba table and swill their drudgery away. I don’t find much to condemn about this.

      The big difference is the Americans know what they are doing and why they are doing it for the most part. Otherwise guys like Carlin or even Bill Hicks wouldn’t exist in that society to tell people what is wrong with the culture such as the acceptance of mediocrity. In the Philippines, MEDIOCRITY IS THE CULTURE. Why do you think certain talented pinoys throughout the decades leave the country to pursue their ambitions and endeavors? Because the Philippines won’t help them otherwise and there is no long term value for it.

      I can’t say the rest about your idealistic musings, especially the rise of the middle class since they are even more of an endangered specie in the country.

      • Joe America says:


        I’d say we are strikingly in agreement today. At least you acknowledge my brain dump to be idealistic “musings” rather than ravings or rantings or pukings.

  12. J.B. says:

    Many employed Pinoys work hard thinking that after 50 they can feast on everything.

    There and then, they gobbled tons of unhealthy foods enough to shorten their lifespan.

    • Jay says:


      I’m not surprised there is a high case of diabetes in the country. Oh and the cholesterol and heart disease with dining on favorite pulutan on a weekly or even a bi-weekly basis, drinking the beer of the isles.

      • J.B. says:

        Pinoy walang disiplina. Pati pagkain.

      • ChinoF says:

        Add to that 25% of Filipinos worldwide having high blood pressure. Go figure.

      • NFA rice says:

        It’s not only pulutan but also the general Filipino diet. Rice at breakfast, lunch, and dinner. You have longganisa and fried rice, then tinolang baboy at lunch, and adobo/humba at dinner. Everything washed down the throat with a bottle of Mountain dew or Coke. Then you have the tendency of Filipinos to congregate at fast food restaurants, Jollibee, McDonalds, and KFC. Combine all of these with the lack of exercise then you have a recipe for a health disaster.

      • ChinoF says:

        Favorite pulutan that’s also a fave ulam is sisig (yum… then grabs his chest 😆 ), hehehe.

      • Jay says:

        Of course I’m generalizing when I said my piece however, when my momma’s side has their genetics of a 25% for diabetes and my fathers side has the similar chance based on genetics PLUS a high chance of blood pressure as well, you definitely start believing. Maybe it isn’t the same for your family members outside of Manila, who get by through their lives eating wheat they planted but in Manila where many available drinks are full of sugar (sodas, C2, sago etc.), empty nutrients from snacks, families that get by with rice and patis, greasy pulutan becomes everyday ulam and their high dependence for canned foods (lol preservatives) doesn’t make for a very healthy and long lifestyle, especially if you pick up a habit like smoking.

        I have a younger cousin of mine already who has been diagnosed with high blood pressure, since their momma doesn’t teach them to eat, also besides the fact she has weight issues and insecurities with it as well.

        Safe to say my family is medically cursed, but that gives me (or even us) the motivation to live healthier. I can’t say for the rest of the country who may have the better genetics but they want to live the toxic lifestyle.

  13. Jett Rink says:

    Ironically, some of the few foreign firms that have cracked the Phil. market are I think partly responsible for this increase in high-blood and diabetes incidence. J.Walter Thompson, Mccann Erickson, Ace Saatchi and Saatchi are firms that dominate Phil.advertising, and they have been so good that they have truly hypnotized us to consume lots and lots of softdrinks, fast-foods, ice-cream, meat products, processed foods. 🙂 of course, most of their clients are Phil. oligarchs anyway.

  14. innagadda54 says:

    Many here mention lack of discipline. Maybe I am wrong but I have not seen one person talk about that laws and rules are not worth the spit they are spoken on. Observe any jeepney driver. They drive irregardless of traffic laws and the laws of gravity because they are too poor for their own good. Corrupt traffic cops can’t get bribes from them. Think about that paradigm. It’s self perpetuating.

    Many of us here in Anti Pinoy know that the Emperor has no clothes. But how many of you have gotten into arguments with others who can not even name you one thing Noynoy has excelled in? I know of a very wise 11 year old who reads my personal stuff and out argued his parents. They could not answer him. By Noynoy getting voted in, the message we are giving our kids: Don’t accomplish anything and your name will take you to the top. Now is that a good message? Will that help us compete in globalization?

    Vince Lombardi said:

    “Running a football team is no different than running any other kind of organization — an army, a political party or a business. The principles are the same. The object is to win — to beat the other guy. … To know the rules and objectives when they get in the game. The object is to win fairly, squarely, by the rules — but to win.”

    Filipinos should pay attention to his words even if he did not coach basketball. You tell me when you walk the streets of this nation, which of those words apply to our culture? Win? Beat? Fairly? Squarely? By The Rules? Objectives? We need a wake up call Philippines.

    • innagadda54 says:

      I forgot to put towards the end:

      This is a culture of cutting corners and entitlement.

    • ChinoF says:

      We sure need a wake up call for a country that loves to sleep.

      It’s funny that Filipinos can be so bold and disobedient here, but when in America or Europe, they follow the rules like obedient puppies. You can’t bribe the police there, but here as long as you got the money, bribe away. Lack of discipline has many factors, like the laziness of our own culture, but I believe that the system and how it’s enforced plays a large part as well.

  15. WTF DUDE!!! says:

    “Also, this avoidance of confrontation can lead to many Filipinos not saying what they need to say to correct another person. Instead, they talk behind their backs. It’s one reason why Filipino family values can actually encourage our culture of inaction and fatalism. It can lead to families pretending that everything is OK, while they’re actually breaking up inside. ”

    Gah!! need help here! what if this person was ur Professor in college? and u’ll get a failing grade
    once u Speak up front about the wrong things he is doing? xD replies ASAP!

    • Parallax says:

      speak to your prof calmly and politely about your issue with him. if he discusses the issue with you fairly, well and good. if he’s a difficult person to talk to and you get nowhere with bringing the issue up with him, then you can speak with his boss. the ethical thing to do is talk with your prof in question first before you ever raise it with someone else. of course, you don’t need to be reminded of documenting everything that supports your case so that presenting it to him (or his superior if need be) will be a lot easier. if you could get classmates to support your claims or echo your cause, it could also give more weight to the need to address the issue.

      (btw, if he is doing something illegal or downright wrong like “kwatro o kwarto,” better go straight to the authorities.)

  16. Garnet Alexa says:

    This might be quite disheartening to hear/read but I think that it’s your article makes a very good point.

    I am not one for confrontation and only recently have I realized that it’s a very bad thing. It’s ok to not want to have a fight but to never confront someone else about a problem, that’s a problem in itself. Because instead of solving the issue, we sometimes just hide it, letting it simmer inside us while we pretend that there is no problem. But the truth is, it’s still there, biding it’s time until one emotional outburst lets it out again.

    And that is stressful. More stressful than just fixing it at once.

    I think that our culture likes to promote the “if you have nothing good to say, then don’t say anything at all” cliche. Which is downright stupid. How are you going to grow as a person and how will that person know that they are wrong if you don’t say anything right? There’s such a thing as constructive criticism.

    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being happy people. But if that happiness is just a mask, a diversion from the truth, then that’s not really happiness is it?

    • Garnet Alexa says:

      Oops. Typo… that’s supposed to be “that your article makes” and not “that it’s your article makes”.

    • ChinoF says:

      Hey, on the “if you have nothing good to say, then don’t say anything at all” slogan, I debunked that lately on my Facebook status. Nice to know that you think the same way. I mean, if you’re a witness to a crime, and you tell police who the crook is, that’s not something good to say about the person, but it’s the truth and it has to be said, doesn’t it?

      Happiness as a mask… you got it. Is it true happiness? That’s the problem.

      • Garnet Alexa says:

        It’s just like a lie of omission. Technically, you didn’t TELL a lie, but you lied just the same. And a lie never helps anybody.

  17. Benny says:

    Filipinos indulging in pleasantries unmindful of what they are going through, is that what you mean? I don’t know how old you are, if you have a family of your own and if you have gone through what I have gone through of my 56 years on earth.

    Take a look at countries that have a catholic orientation that Spanish friars conquered. Most, if not all, of those countries like ours, the Philippines, is third world if not in bad shape! We were made to believe in God, fear Him and RELY or DEPEND on Him! That is where the problem is! To believe and have fear in God is alright. But to totally rely and and depend on Him – OMG! Filipinos have many ways to show too much dependence on God to the point that they come up with phrases such as “ipapasa-Diyos ko na lang”, “bahala na ang Diyos”, Diyos ang nakaka-alam”, “God-willing”, “i-aasa ko na lang sa Diyos” and many more.

    If God did not respond to their “prayers” or wishes – they’re lost for good! When that happens, that’s the time they while away towards more pleasant things! Waiting . . . waiting . . . waiting for something to happen to the point they rely on chain letters, chain emails and chain text messages – again religiously related.

    Sometimes that’s the reason why other religious beliefs do not believe in catholics or christians. Their beliefs has made their country better than most. The Philippines is the only predominantly catholic country in southeast asia if not the entire asia. What is it now compared to the non-catholic or non-christian countries? Hindi nag-hihirap ang mga pari! May nagre-reklamo pa kung bakit puro coins ang donasyon kasi mabigat daw dalhin sa bangko! Kelangan daw nila ng pera kasi pambayad ng city services ( o baka kaya tumaas na quota nila sa vatican). With this, the poor become poorer because they believe in the priests who mulct them of their money.

    Now, would you not look for something more pleasant than this?

    Well, for yourself you would really be earning from this multitude of response, huh? Giniling mo ang mga Pinoy para pagka-kitaan nitong post mo. Nice style buddy pero I do also work online para kumita pero not the way you do it.

    • ChinoF says:

      I have to agree with you on the influence of religion, especially the Catholic church here. It helped propagate the system of patronage and subservience to the oligarchs and political patrons. In fact, when the priests today say, “blessed are the poor,” most poor believe that this entitles them to receive dole-outs from the rich. And the poor still dream of getting consumer goods, branded bags and clothes, from these dole-outs. Filipinos tend to have the wrong view of what’s truly pleasant that they become lazy. What you explained in a way agrees with this.

      By the way, your assumption that I earn from my articles here is poorly founded. I work online indeed, but not here. I don’t own this site either. This is part of my personal advocacy.

      Giniling ko ang mga Pinoy kasi gusto kong baguhin ang mga mali sa kultura natin.

      To satisfy your curiosity, I’m 34 years old, single. But I come from a big family, and I base my observations of Filipino culture in what I see in my family, my neighborhood and the people I meet here in Quezon City.

      Thanks for your comment. 🙂

    • Garnet Alexa says:

      I wouldn’t fully blame the Catholic or Christian religion though. After all, the Christian doctrine doesn’t promote laziness. They don’t say “don’t do anything and God will give everything to you”. In fact, many of Jesus’ parables tell how people must work because you reap what you sow. If you work for it, you’ll most likely get it.

      I think the problem is with how most people interpret the teachings. Just because the bible says “ask and you shall receive” doesn’t mean that you can just laze around. I think people interpret the doctrines in such a way that indulges their laziness and dependency. Which is of course, what is wrong.

      I’m a Catholic myself and I know that when I pray for something from God, I’ll still have to work to get it.

      • NFA rice says:

        Blame it on the native church hierarchy. They suck at catechism, emphasizing the virtue of poverty, politicized immoral priests delivering worthless sermons, and meddling in the affairs of the state. Also busy cuddling little altar boys? No wonder they are losing their moral authority, people and politicians especially paying lip service to the Christian ethics.

    • ulong pare says:

      … daaang

      …@benny naman naman namannn

      … am 70 years old going 18 (thank you viagra 😳 )

      … born and raised catholic… but, the devil/satan saved my flipass from pekeng religion katangahan…

      … picture this, right from the get-go:

      >>> why worship photo/drawings/sculptures of the renaissance men? according to the buy bull ooopsie bible, jc was born thousand years ago… he shouldn’t look like me, right? mucho guapo eh…

      … ay sus ginoo… flips puro gung gongs…

  18. Baron Von Cruzer says:

    One behavior that perplexes me about Filipinos here in the US is their preoccupation with gambling.

    Here in the San Francisco Bay Area we are just a few hours drive from the gambling Meccas in Nevada. Even in our home state we have casinos in Indian Reservations. There’s even a Casino in San Jose (don’t ask me how that one is legal).

    These Filipinos brag about how many thousands of dollars they lose on a typical visit. They are so boring, and lacking anything they’re passionate about, that when they get some discretional income, the only way they can think of to enjoy it is to piss it away.

    When they find out I spent $500 on a new iPod or, god forbid, $15 on a music CD, they exclaim, “Oh my God! That’s too expensive!” Last person who said that commutes to work on a BMW.

  19. BAYANI says:


    • Miriam Quiamco says:

      Another escapee from a mental institution has found his way here, tsk, tsk, tsk, Jesus, you need more time in there. . .

    • Hyden Toro says:

      Hey Bayani:

      I was a Blogger at Filipino Voices. I criticized, Gloria Arroyo, during her term. Until, I was kicked out from the Blog Site. Now, I have to point out the truth, about Noynoy Aquino. His lies, deceptions and delusions. We are not traitors, because, we migrated to other countries. For much as we want: we would had stayed. However, we saw the political stranglehold of the Oligarchs, like the family of Noynoy Aquino. It is more of frustrations, on our part, rather than, being traitors. We have the right to voice out, our opinions. We are paying taxes. We are sending money to our love ones, back in the Philippines. We are concerned, how our country is governed. There is nothing wrong with that. Now,
      take your inuendo with you. And, rave, as much as you can, for your idol: the imbecile Noynoy Aquino…

    • ulong pare says:

      … daaang

      @bayagni: si juantamad kahapon, di ba?

      … i’m not a race traitor… i am beri-beri proud of my tribe (aetas) in bundok makiling (malagu-laguna)… :mrgreen:

      … maybe a rice traitor; i hate birdseed (rice)… i only consume basmati, calrose… not local rice.,..

      … fyi, i don’t like ate glo, kasi, the white envelope she sent me, allah eh, kulang… kinaltasan ng mga ladrones garapales… and i wasn’t part of her world shopping entourage…

      … i can’t ‘bakwet to ‘merka… kasi, the gung gongs/squats will occupy my lote the minute i leave the area and they will demand “payment” when i try to kick them out of my property…

      … kaya, ikaw, bayagni juantamad… tumahimik ka na lang… :mrgreen:

    • Jay says:

      awww but the difference of the people who migrated is… they have money to bring food to the table to feed their children and choices on how to educate them for the future. They can choose to make their children into proper contributors into society and even help promote local and international changes.

      I hope this BAYANI can say that about his current government. O kaya pagmayabang pa 8)

  20. ako ang simula ng pagkabobo says:

    huwag mo namang bastusin ang idol kong si Mr. Political will. Shame on you, bayani the troll.


    bad netiquette

  21. BAGONGBAYANI says:


    • Hyden Toro says:

      SUSMARYOSEP…may nakawala, sa Mental Institution… 🙄 🙄 🙄 🙄

    • ulong pare says:

      … daaang

      @bagongbayag: … same jackass, different saddle… o bago na naman ang handle mo…

      … magbago na naman kayo… wala na ngang sinabi ang flipland, puro pa mga gung gongs ang inyong mga ibinoboto…

      … wala na kayong ginawang matino… puro kayo pandamay… gung gong…

  22. The prevailing trait among modern Filipinos is being gullible. This trait leads them to respond very well to charismatic people. Hence, big religions across the archipelago and the fascination for a popular, humble leader who can commit a lot of blunders at work for as long as he is charming. Woe to you if you’ve got a straight face and a work ethic that does not entertain tardiness or related issues because you will be labeled as hiding something, worse corrupt. The game is being exposed all the time which is why public affairs shows always want people to believe that they should know everything there is to know even if the information is not useful in one’s daily living. Show a pic of you receiving your first paycheck and you will have earned the trust of more gullible Filipinos. Never mind if it’s just one time because it’s the only time that matters. It doesn’t have to be a monthly photo op anyway. The people already ate it and news programs will be airing it come December for their countdown of things humble and transparent.

  23. Comment.... says:

    Uhm…we’re not all like that… 😐

    I’m Filipino myself,and yes,I agree that we have to face the truth…but…the truth can also hurt you…can’t it..?And when you get put down,it’s rather nice to have something positive to look forward to…it doesn’t hurt to be an optimist…

    There are people in every culture that are this way,so it makes no sense to say that Filipinos stand out the most out of the whole world…I agree that our culture has many flaws that we have to fix,but some to alot are common in other cultures as well.You have to admit that America has many problems too…

    I will respect your opinions,but please remember that there may be many of us that are like that,but not all.It’s just like saying every Asian in the world is some kind of stereotype.

    Even if they have a corrupt government,i’m still proud to be a Filipino.And i’m not afraid of the truth-i’m just happy that I can actually tolerate it and say that i’m a Filipino WHILE being proud.

    • ChinoF says:

      Not to worry, I’m aware not all are like that. It’s just that this time I used generalizing terms – which classical theorists often use – and it’s great that you were able to understand the difference. And this site is proof that we’re not all like that. 😉

    • Jay says:

      Only in the Philippines, where the stereotype is the STATUS QUO.

      It’s just like saying every Asian in the world is some kind of stereotype.

      Except there is a good amount of accepted truth regarding that stereotype.

      Even in a corrupt government, I can’t do anything but be Filipino. It doesn’t mean AP should promote following the mediocrity mindset of the STATUS QUO. Even Jose Rizal wished to see a Philippines that is doing the exact opposite of what they are doing NOW.



  25. Maikimai says:

    “Because of pleasantry addiction, Filipinos love to avoid confrontation.”

    I remembered when Hilary Clinton went to the Philippines and was asked by the students.

    “Who is your crush?”
    “Who will win? Pacquiao or Hatton?”

    WTF?!?? FOR GOD’S SAKE!!! YOU ARE INTERVIEWING THE US SECRETARY OF STATE AND NOT LADY GAGA!!!! Why the fuck are they giving showbiz questions?

    I know, the organizers were the culprit. They probably made a rule that only showbiz question can only be asked.

    • ChinoF says:

      I think many Filipinos now have twisted ideas of what’s pleasant. I’m even wondering if Kris Aquino’s broadcasting her STD is pleasant for some people. 😈 Getting GMA in jail is probably a very pleasant thought for many people. Heck, in their poverty, they’ve probably run out of things to be pleasant about.

      Yeah, the students were most likely coached on what to ask, since they had no idea about U.S. politics (sorry state of education here). If these “showbiz” questions are what they ask, then that reflects the kind of mentality our people have. They’re always concerned about the personal lives of public figures, and nothing about the policies, beliefs and achievements. So the poor students miss out on what’s really important.

  26. ako ang simula ng pagkabobo says:

    politics sections of various pinoy forums I’ve visited seem to be the least populated sections.

    That was bad enough.

    What’s worse is that you almost always get a “ano ba ang nagawa mo para sa bayan?” remark whenever you or someone else try to confront an issue.

    • ChinoF says:

      “ano ba ang nagawa mo para sa bayan?”

      It’s a loaded question that also serves as a red herring to lead you off the issue. Also shows the asker’s emo tendency.

    • J.B. says:

      That’s actually so ironic about the Philippines.

      Politics being the discipline which causes the greatest woe to Filipinos, including among others the need to move overseas just to have a “life” away from a decadent system, end up having the distaste of common people in terms of intellectual discussion.

  27. Indolent Indio Circa 1521 says:

    TRUTH IS UNPLEASANT!!!  What do they want?  If they want Blogs-in-Denial go to Pro-Pinoy run by Cocoy!!!!  HA!HA!HA!HA!  That website is so funny!!!!  Those Pro-Pinoy love censorship.  If you post anything against their glorified saintly president you are banned and ex-communicated.  If your englischtzes is wronger and spellneger attrocios you are banned outright.  

    WHAT IS WRONG WITH FILIPINOS!!!!  Why so focused in perpekt englischtzes and spellings?

    • Aegis-Judex says:

      When I wrote a poem viz. the sorry state of this state, one of my classmates actually found it condescending. My response? “Why sweeten the bitter truth?”

      My Lord, they really have perverted what they emulate. Insert nutcracker here.

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  30. potaters says:

    Today, Karen Davila asked her followers what makes them proud to be Filipino and the responses are hilariously sad, “BEST NURSES IN THE WORLD!”, “Kahit naghihirap nasa mall pa rin!” “Kayang mag-trend sa Twitter” Shet, tae talaga! And Karen is like going high on drugs while retweeting these stooopid messages.

  31. No Idea says:

    I agree with this blog entry… good writer! You can’t even say crap, shit, wtf and that sucks.. I hate being NICE and I think that really NICE people are potential “serial killers”. No kidding. Beware of extremely nice people! (They repress their emotions and they can just BLOW anytime!) Be very afraid of “nice people”.

  32. No Idea says:

    I have used this as a LINK to my site. I hope the writer (whom I really don’t know) doesn’t mind. I believe that everyone should read this and that it makes a LOT of sense.

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